"Honesty is the first chapter of the book of wisdom."
This article is inspired by a short email we received from a new course student:
Dear Marc and Angel,
In one of your recent emails you asked your students to think about a weakness they want to change. Mine tells lies. Although they are usually only small lies, I have been abducted. I lie about things all the time just to make me look better than I am … because I want to impress people. But it gets harder! I feel that every little lie leads to another, and it bears me. I'm tired of my own dishonesty! Please help me break this habit. I need some motivation to make a change once and for all. Your wisdom in this subject would be greatly appreciated.
A Dishonest Student
Our Answer (an open answer to anyone who has lied to impress people):
Dear Dishonest Student,
It's time for a quick story of life …
Once upon a time, an aging king knew his life was coming to a close, and he decided it was time to appoint a successor. Unfortunately, having lost his wife and children in a terrible accident, he chose to surrender the throne to a happy child . So he called children from every corner of his kingdom and asked them to visit the castle immediately.
When the children arrived, he gave each of them a small brown seed. "I want you to plant your seed, give it sunlight and water and take good care of it," he said. "In exactly six months from today, you return to the castle with the plant you have grown. The child who grows the most beautiful plant will be mentored by me to be the next king or queen!"
One of the lucky children who got a seed on it The day was a young girl named Skye, she immediately ran home and planted her seed gently in a pot of nutritious soil, then placed it on a well-lit window sill, and each day Skye watered and nourished her seed. in her school boasting of her beautiful plants, but Skie's pot was still empty. Despite her constant care, her seed had not grown at all.
Six months went by quickly and it was time for all children to return to the castle to show the king the plant Skye did not want to go with her empty pot of land, but her parents told her to be honest about her failure. his parents and returned to the castle. She stood quietly in the back of the room where the king would evaluate everyone's plants, waiting to be judged.
When the king entered the room, he looked surprised to see so many beautiful plants. He then went on from child to child admiring what they had grown. And the closer the king came to Skye, the more her eyes became well tears.
The king eventually stood in front of her and her empty pot. "What's your name?" The king asked.
"Skye," she said with an angle.
"Where's your plant, Skye?"
Hanging her head in humiliation, Skye took a deep breath and then looked up at the king and told the truth: "Your Majesty, I planted the little brown seed you gave me in this pot, and I gave it plenty of sunshine and water every day, but the seed didn't grow at all. I have failed. "
Suddenly, the king's voice thundered throughout the room," Look! My successor! Your next queen! Her name is Skye! "
Silence and confusion swept across the room as the king continued," Six months ago I gave everyone here a boiled brown seed that could not grow into a plant. Only Skye had the heart and the courage to share the truth with me today. Soon enough she will lead our kingdom very well! "
As friends, as family members, as teammates … too often we feel the need to lie about our experiences and achievements, simply to make us seem bigger and better than we are. We believe that if we constantly showcase the "beautiful plants" we have grown, then others will love and respect us. But this is far from the truth (no wording intended).
When we share our truths openly and honestly, we not only build the kind of trust that opens doors to deeper relationships and real opportunities, but we also make it easier for the people we spend our lives to be more open and honest with us, which makes every moment together healthier and more peaceful.
Marc and Angel
Your turn …
Please leave a comment below and let us know:
How do you find the strength to stand by the truth, even when it is difficult?
Anything else to share?
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