Right now, remind yourself of the truth.
Remind yourself that the New Year means nothing if your mind is still gathered in its comfort zone.
Don't fool yourself into living the same year 90 times and call it a life.
And don't just think outside the box 2020 …
Imagine there is no box.  Open your mind!
Start by asking yourself better questions.
Questions that break you away from all the comfortable distractions in your life, so you can focus your thinking on what's most important …
(And what should everyone be able to say before the end of 2020?)
A slightly deeper dive into self-questioning
As I referred to in the intro, the questions you ask yourself can regularly determine what type of person you are becomes. The self-question, when used effectively and consistently, gradually releases your mind to focus on what is most important. This process is something that Marc and I have successfully guided hundreds of our coaching clients and course students over the past decade to help them cope with the various weakening sources of stress that held them back.
If you want to better deal with the stress of your own life 2020, I'll give you some bonus questions to think about. Unlike the questions above, which focus on the big picture of what is important to you, the following will support you as you relax from the frustrations of life's less everyday encounters. The key to using these questions is to embrace the fact that most of the frustrations and stresses in your daily life can be avoided if you simply take the time to ask, "What else could this mean?"
So the next time a random life situation starts to get the best of you, pause, take a deep breath and then ask you:
- What is the story I tell myself about this situation?
- Can I be absolutely sure that this story is the truth?
- How do I feel and behave when I tell myself this story?
- If I stopped telling myself this story once and for all, what can I see, feel or experience?
Give yourself the space to think through it carefully. Mull it over consciously. And seeing how you do it opens your mind to respond more peacefully and appropriately in the coming year.
( Note: Self-questioning and other self-coaching methods are also dealt with in detail in our New York Times best-selling book, Get Back to Happy: Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Reality, and Turn Your Trials into Triumphs.
Now it's your turn …
Above all, what you need to remember is that it's not the answers you get from others, but the questions you ask yourself that help you become stronger.  So I challenge you to read and refer to all of the above questions throughout the year, and remember they have no right or wrong answer. To ask the right questions to yourself, regularly, is the answer.
And before you go, please share your thoughts with us in the comment section below.
We would love to read your answer to question 3 above: What change # 1 do you have to make in your life year 2020?
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