Judge a person at her questions rather than at her answers.
The saying "She who teaches others, teaches herself" is very true, not only because constant repetition helps impress facts indelibly on the mind, but also because the process of teaching itself gives greater insight into the subject taught. Selfishly, this is sometimes the reason Angel and I take on new course students and write new personal development articles, even when our schedules are full. The strategies we teach help us grow, too.
One of the strategies we teach over and over again is self-inquiry, which is basically the art of asking ourselves the right questions. Why is this strategy so important? Because the questions we ask ourselves become thoughts. Thoughts then become words. Words become actions. Actions become character. And character changes everything.
Truth be told, when times get tough and big problems, as they are inevitably, it is the strength of our character that is seen through.
we say to (and ask of) ourselves on a daily basis, I want you to think about how you've been speaking to yourself lately. Have you been using the empowering, encouraging words you would speak to a friend? Or the belittling remarks you would shout to an enemy if you had now heard? Or the negative remarks about life you might utter if you had no faith
All day long you speak silently to yourself, and a part of you believe every word.
- – Your greatest weapon against stress and negativity is your ability to choose one thought over another. Happiness escapes from those who refuse to see the good in what they have.
- – Smile, not because life has been easy, you have to be negative, think of one good reason to be positive. perfect, if you had anticipated, but because you choose to be happy and thankful for all the good things you have, and for all the problems you know you don't have. (Read Man's Search for Meaning.)
- What do you need to stop thinking and saying to yourself? you ARE. We have to learn to be our own best friends, because sometimes we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.
- What are you holding on that you need to let go of? the hardest lessons in life is letting go – whether it's guilt, anger, love or loss. Change is never easy. You go to fight and let's go, but often letting go is the healthiest path forward. It clears out toxic thoughts from the past. You've got to emotionally free yourself from the things that once meant a lot to you, so you can move beyond the past and the pain it brings you.
- Will you be others and you will be responsible for your work plan? – Imagine how much more effective and happy you'd be, instead of denying, blaming, dreading and fighting against certain situations and tasks, you just got them handled.
- How did you respond from a place of clarity and strength, rather than thoughtlessly reacting to this experience? – Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask yourself if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future. And remember that our character is often most evident in our highs and lows. Be humble at the mountaintops, be strong in the valleys, and be faithful in between.
- How can you be of service to the greater good, so that everyone around you feels elevated, rather than weighed down? is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more. Thus, the best way to find yourself when times are tough is to lose yourself in the service of a cause greater than yourself.
- standards, but you remember that your expectations of everything are the best way to avoid being disappointed. Because, in a sense, expectations are like fine pottery — the harder you hold on to, the more likely they are to crack.
- Forgiveness doesn´t always lead to healed relationships and situations. Some relationships and situations aren't meant to be. Forgive anyway, and let's get started, BE. Go ahead and set yourself free. When you hold resentment toward another entity, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel.
- – Don't worry about past events affecting all the possibilities ahead of you. Live for what today has to offer, not what yesterday has taken away. There will always be obstacles, but we are confined most often by the walls we build ourselves. What we see depends on how we look. NOTE: Angel and I cover dozens of important life questions as a theme that radiates through every chapter of our NEW edition of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do It Differently.]
Now, it's your turn…
Today, remind yourself that life is full of uncontrollable circumstances, and the only thing you can absolutely control is how you choose to respond. When you really take the time to think about it, everything happening around us is neutral and meaningless until the point that we give it meaning.
In any situation, it's about choosing:
- Will I allow this to upset me?
- Will I choose to make this bad or good?
- Will I choose to stay or walk away?
- Will I choose to yell or whisper?
- Will I choose to respond to the time to respond?
Bottom line: The questions we ask ourselves drive our behavior, and our behavior is a little thing that makes a big difference. To a great extent, we create our fate every single day … and most of the ills we suffer from are directly traceable to our own (controllable) behavior.
So, keep yourself in check today. 19
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